We all thought 2020 was going to be our year, but 4 (almost 5) months in we are realizing we want 2019 back and skip over 2020. Well at least I am!
2020 has been the year my mental health has been challenged, now more than ever I can’t wait to talk to my therapist and allow her to peel the layers I have developed over the years.
What is anxiety?
Anxiety: a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
I suffer from anxiety. My anxiety comes in waves, like not being in control of certain situations, anxiety about letting people down, anxiety about not meeting people’s expectations. Anxiety sucks!.
Anxiety attacks are not the same as panic attacks. *Anxiety attacks usually occur because of a perceived stressor or thread (ei. Anxiety about going out and thinking you might get Covid-19). A panic attack can occur without a trigger and the physical symptoms are usually worse than an anxiety attack.
I keep my anxiety well under control (most of the time) without medication, and even though sometimes it comes in waves I can’t control, I still manage to push through and overcome this big monster. But since the pandemic hit, I’ve been working from home and a new wave of anxiety has taken over and it seems to grow and grow. Over the years I’ve found a few things that help me calm me down when I feel an anxiety attack coming
Things that have been helping me control my anxiety:
- Breathing: Just take a minute to breath. Deep breaths, fill up your lungs as much as you can with air. Exhale slowly. Repeat this until you feel calm.
- Go hug someone: If you have someone you love near, ask them to hug you and to hold you tight. I know it sounds weird, but hugging someone releases some kind of hormone in your brain that makes you happy. Plus, who doesn’t like hugs?
- Meditation: this is similar to breathing exercise, but this is done more in a calm setting environment. I have been trying meditation for a couple of minutes before going to sleep. Focusing on my breathing with everything quiet and dark. It almost feels like emptying your brain of all the clutter. This has helped tremendously in allowing me to fall asleep faster and waking up more relaxed.
- Exercise: Exercising helps you lower your stress and it also helps you feel better after eating that chocolate cookie.
“Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands, they just don't.” Elle Woods
- Talk to someone: I’ve been seeing a therapist now for almost 2 years, and talking to her once a week has given me a new perspective on things, it also has helped me deal with my emotions instead of tucking them away.
I talk about my mental health on my instagram stories, so if you just need someone to listen or ask a question don’t hesitate to reach you! Do you have any other tips that have worked for you in managing anxiety? Let me know!